Do what you love most! I'm addicted to ______.
Listen to your gut! I don't trust myself anymore.
How many of these phrases have you uttered? I've said all of them. Countless times. And I've listened to you say them, countless times.
This generation has been the first to shamelessly break traditions, expectations, safe decisions - to pursue passions, listen to today over yesterday and sacrifice everything for what makes your heart race.
I love it, and I hate it.
It's reaping great rewards, and great costs.
Do you see the cost, on the flipside of every push to put your heart first?
In our haste, I believe we have spit out the meat and not just the bones.
This applies to a handful of topics, but I want to talk about relationships. And women, I'm looking at you.
Stand up for yourself.
Put your heart on hold for three minutes, and decide right now to bring your mind back into your relationships.
I don't mean this in an insulting way. I'm not calling you stupid.
I'm calling you to use everything you've been given for the purpose it was intended.
I'm not telling you to be heartless, and to pursue relationships that feel wrong.
I'm calling you to be wise, and to surround yourself with men you respect, not men who just make your heart feel something.
Mind and heart.
It's not one or the other, it's both, together.
I'm pulling all of my past mistakes into the present to tell you that I've been there, and I've learned the lessons the painful way. And to tell you that chances are, you don't understand how valuable you are.
I'm going to make some very blunt, specific statements. Take them to heart.
Do not stay with a man who doesn't hug and kiss you.
Do not stay with a man who doesn't love your friends.
Do not stay with a man who turns you against friends or family.
Do not stay with a man who gives you better sex than friendship.
Do not stay with a man who tells you that love is all you need to make life work.
Do not stay with a man who belittles you, especially through sarcasm.
Do not stay with a man who treats you like a casual acquaintance in public.
Do not stay with a man who regularly talks about how hot other women are.
Do not stay with a man who talks shit about his ex's.
Do not stay with a man who has no expectations for his life.
Do not stay with a man who does not care about his family.
Do not stay with a man who talks badly about his mother.
Do not stay with a man who calls you whore, cunt, slut or bitch.
Do not stay with a man who is quick to accuse you.
Do not stay with a man who halves you, instead of doubles you.
Do not stay with a man where it is never his fault or it is always his fault.
Do not stay with a man who asks but does not give (in and out of the bedroom).
Do not stay with a man who gets angry with you daily or weekly.
Do not stay with a man you do not admire.
Do not stay with a man if you are ever afraid of him.
Do not stay with a man who considers you a liability and not an asset.
Do not stay with a man who won't tell you The Number.
Do not stay with a man who compares you to other women.
Do not stay with a man who does not believe in & live for something greater than himself.
Do not stay with a man who lies to you.
Do not stay with a man who does not regularly encourage you.
Do not stay with a man who never offers to pay.
Do not stay with a man you love when you're with him but that hate when you're not.
Do not stay with a man who would read this list and laugh.
I could go on, and on.
But every single type of man listed here, I have made the decision to stay with, "because of my heart." I tell you this for this purpose only: To beg you to follow your heart, WITH your mind.
You KNOW you deserve better. You KNOW the type of man you want. You KNOW you want to feel like a better woman around your man. You KNOW sleeping around isn't worth it. You KNOW you won't find the right man until you let go of the wrong one. You KNOW waiting will be hard but the sacrifice will be worth it. You KNOW your tendency to pardon things you shouldn't. You KNOW you want to be a good woman.
Use your mind. It was given to you so that you could guard your heart above all else, for it is the wellspring of life.
Love passionately, and choose intelligently.
Let me put it this way.
If you cannot respect a man, you cannot love him to the best of your ability.
You can only love him mindlessly.
The women who love mindlessly and marry men they cannot respect, are the women who endure pain, loneliness, divorce, infidelity, regret, bitterness, abuse, and a lifetime of heartache.
Because they did not protect their hearts with their minds.
Note to men: I just set the bar pretty high for you. Good. You have a world of beautiful, sexy women behind you who want to believe in you, stand beside you, and make your world a thousand times better than it already is. Step it up. Be the man that we respect. We're not asking for perfect men, we're asking for good men. We are ready for you. Be the good man that you are, and win over a woman who wants you like crazy.