tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post7365026248041316823..comments2024-03-26T03:16:48.203-04:00Comments on laurennicolelove.com: A Conversation With Kate On Modesty & Lustlaurennicolelove.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16264637166517789918noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-31714043820681993402019-12-17T14:58:36.348-05:002019-12-17T14:58:36.348-05:00i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one th...i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife. Thanks for helping me Dr Akhere contact him on email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com <br />or<br />call/whatsapp:+2349057261346<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife. Thanks for helping me Dr Akhere contact him on email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com <br />or<br />call/whatsapp:+2349057261346<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />wilson tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18073704697257684390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-50191767974902420342019-12-17T14:54:25.743-05:002019-12-17T14:54:25.743-05:00i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one th...i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife. Thanks for helping me Dr Akhere contact him on email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com <br />or<br />call/whatsapp:+2349057261346<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife. Thanks for helping me Dr Akhere contact him on email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com <br />or<br />call/whatsapp:+2349057261346<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />wilson tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18073704697257684390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-47375179230836974942013-08-24T09:44:49.023-04:002013-08-24T09:44:49.023-04:00E ADESSO... CI HA SCARICATE. NON CI PARLA PIÙ. FA ...E ADESSO... CI HA SCARICATE. NON CI PARLA PIÙ. FA FINTA DI NON CONOSCERCI. PRENDE LE DISTANZE. CI MANDA SOTTO "BERLUSCONIANISSIMI" MAFIOSI, CAMORRISTI, NDRANGHETISTI CHE CI METTONO COLTELLI ALLA GOLA E CI DICONO " SE PARLI DEI TUOI ANNI COME AMANTE LESBICA DI MARINA BERLUSCONI QUESTA GOLA LA TAGLIO". SON DOVUTA ANDARE A VIVERE PER OTTO ANNI IN REPUBBLICA DOMINICANA PER NON FARMI AMMAZZARE DAI SICARI MANDATI DAGLI ASSASSINI, VI ASSICURO, SI, ASSASSINI BERLUSCONI. ASSASSINI!!!! E PROSSIMAMENTE ENTRERÒ IN MOLTI DETTAGLI A PROPOSITO ( I BERLUSCONI HAN FATTO AMMAZZARE CENTINAIA E CENTINAIA DI PERSONE... FAN I FURBASTRI... FAN PASSARE TUTTO PER FINTI SUICIDI, MALORI, INDICENTI, MA VI ASSICURO CHE SON TUTTI ASSASSINII DA LORO ORDINATI, E DA LORO SERVIZI SEGRETI FASCISTISSIMI E PERSONALI, ESEGUITI)! IO, EX PORNOSTAR SIMONA PREMOLI, CHE ORA MI STO RICOSTRUENDO UNA CARRIERA NEL SETTORE DELLE LINGUE, VIA WOOPLY http://www.wooply.com/simonapremoli20 ( FATEMI FARE UNA BATTUTA, PLEASE: A FURIA DI LECCARLA PER SEI ORE DI FILA ALLA FRIGIDA MARINA BERLUSCONI... ORMAI.. DI LINGUE ME NE INTENDO), SÒ BENISSIMO CHE ALLA NOTTE L'OMOSESSUALE MAURIZIO VANADIA DORME CON, ANCHE, TRE UOMINI ALLA VOLTA. E CHE L'OMOSESSUALISSIMA MARINA BERLUSCONI FA LO STESSO, ANCHE CON CINQUE DONNE PER NOTTE. NIENTE CONTRO I GAY, CI MANCHEREBBE, ANCHE IO, SIMONA PREMOLI, SON PIÙ LESBICA CHE STRAIGHT. MA ODIO LE IPOCRISIE. IO AMMETO CHE SONO MOLTO SON PIÙ LESBICA CHE STRAIGHT. MA LA DEPRAVATA OMOSESSUALISSIMA MARINA BERLUSCONI SI FINGE ETERO, A FINI "NEONAZISTI" ED É DA SEMPRE SOLO LESBICA! I SUOI DUE FIGLI VENGONO DA ASSOLUTISSIMA INSEMINAZIONE, NON PER NIENTE! ODIO QUESTE VISCIDE "RETORICHE DI REGIME NEO MUSSOLINIANO-HITLERIANO" E PER QUESTO SCRIVERÒ, ORA, SU MIGLIAIA DI SITI DI TUTTO IL MONDO. HO FATTO ORGE LESBICHE, ORGE CON VECCHI BAVOSI BERLUSCONIANI PER ANNI, HO FATTO SESSO ANALE A TONNELLATE, E ORA, FAN FINTA DI NON CONOSCERMI? MI FARÒ GIUSTIZIA DA SOLA. A FRA NON MOLTO PER TANTISSIMI ALTRI SCRITTI. EX PORNOSTAR SIMONA PREMOLI, EX AMANTE LESBICISSIMA DI MARINA BERLUSCONI. E PER 12 ANNI, DICO, 12 ANNI! MINACCIATA DI MORTE DI CONTINUO, SU ORDINE DI MAFIOSA, NAZISTA, MEGA LAVA SOLDI MALAVITOSI, MEGA MANDANTE DI OMICIDI MARINA BERLUSCONI.<br />https://www.facebook.com/simona.premoli.7<br />https://www.facebook.com/simona.premoli.96<br />http://it.linkedin.com/pub/simona-premoli/25/786/a54. E PROSSIMAMENTE SCRIVERÒ ANCHE DEI TANTISSIMI RICICLAGGI DI SOLDI DI MAFIA, CAMORRA, NDRANGHETA, "LL -LEGA LADRONA", "PDL -POPOLO DI LADRONI" E BERLUSCONI PEDOFILO, CHE LA "LESBICA OCCULTA DA OGNI PUNTO DI VISTA" MARINA BERLUSCONI FA FARE PER LEI, ALL'AVANZO DI GALERA, GIÀ TANTE VOLTE CONDANNATO AL CARCERE, PURE ASSASSINO, PAOLO BARRAI (MERCATO LIBERO, NOTO IN TUTTO IL MONDO COME "MERDATO" LIBERO)!!! PRESSO SPAZZATURA DELLE MAFIE DI TUTTO IL GLOBO TERRESTRE, MALAVITOSISSIMA FINTER BANK LUGANO DI COLLETTI CRIMINALI FILIPPO CRIPPA E GIOVANNI DEI CAS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-74966344603699652842013-08-24T09:44:20.708-04:002013-08-24T09:44:20.708-04:00MASTODONTICA LAVA € MAFIOSI MARINA BERLUSCONI .. (...MASTODONTICA LAVA € MAFIOSI MARINA BERLUSCONI .. ( AND VERY HOT LESBICO-N-AZISTA... PUR, COME DICEVO, E NON MI STANCHERÒ DI RIPETERLO, SE DI TIPO VISCIDAMENTE "OCCULTO") HA PER MARITO 1 ASSOLUTO SOLO E SEMPRE OMOSESSUALE PURE: MAURIZIO VANADIA. ED IO, EX PORNOSTAR SIMONA PREMOLI (NOW IN WOOPLY), SONO STATA AMANTE SOLO E SEMPRE LESBICA, DI MARINA BERLUSCONI! PER 12 ANNI! BASTA IPOCRISIE SCHIFOSAMENTE MUSSOLINIANE, PLEASE!<br /><br />CIAO A TUTTI. SONO L'EX PORNOSTAR SIMONA PREMOLI <br />https://www.facebook.com/simona.premoli.7 <br />https://www.facebook.com/simona.premoli.96<br />http://it.linkedin.com/pub/simona-premoli/25/786/a54<br /><br />IN ARTE E NELLA VITA, PER UN CERTO PERIODO, ANCHE SIMONA PREMOLI MEJIA. PER 12 ANNI SONO STATA L'AMANTE LESBICISSIMA DI MARINA BERLUSCONI. INDIMENTICABILI LE NOTTI PASSATE NEI SUOI UFFICI DI FININVEST, CHE MEGLIO DEFINIREI MA-F-ININVEST ( ALIAS: "DA SEMPRE FINANZIATA DALLA MAFIA": FININVEST), A FARE ORGE LESBICHE SU ORGE LESBICHE!!! CON DEBORAH PERAZZOLI CHE COMMENTA QUI http://mondodonna.blogosfere.it/2009/06/agenti-della-gf-stuprano-prostituta-a-roma.html<br />http://gaetanolopresti.wordpress.com/2009/05/25/fedele-confalonieri-i-cimiteri-sono-pieni-di-persone-indispensabili/, MARIA GRAZIA CRUPI https://www.facebook.com/mariagraziamari.crupi, SARA TOMMASI<br />https://it-it.facebook.com/pages/Sara-Tommasi/35193659002 CHE NON PER NIENTE, GIUSTISSIMAMENTE, PARLÒ DI GIRI SQUALLIDISSIMI, ANZI, CHE SUPER GIUSTISSIMAMENTE, PARLÒ DI MARCHETTE IMPOSTE DA FASCIONDRANGHETISTA MARINA BERLUSCONI<br />http://infosannio.wordpress.com/2011/02/09/sara-tommasi-basta-con-le-marchette-nel-giro-di-marina-berlusconi/, ERIKA NERI http://www.pornostaritaliana.com/pornostar/erika-neri/, LAURA PEREGO http://www.pornostaritaliana.com/pornostar/laura-perego/ E TANTISSIME ALTRE PORNOSTARS AMATORIALI O PROFESSIONALI, MA SEMPRE NAZIFASCISTE, COME TUTTE QUELLE CHE HO APPENA RIPORTATO. LA SEMPRE E SOLO LESBICA MARINA BERLUSCONI MI HA COSTRETTO A LECCARGLI LA VAGINA ANCHE PER 6 0RE, DA MEZZANOTTE ALLE 6 DI MATTINA ( IN QUANTO NOTORIAMENTE FRIGIDA). NEGLI UFFICI DI MA-F-ININVEST, SI, PROPRIO LI!!! HA COSTRETTO ME E MARIA GRAZIA CRUPI A SCOPARE, SCOPARE, SCOPARE, FARE TANTISSIMO SESSO ANALE ( TANTO VERO CHE HO DA ANNI IL NICK: « SIMOMA PREMOLI MEJIA, A FAR SESSO ANALE, SEI SEMPRE A MEEEEEJIA »), CON TANTA GENTE DI CENTRO SINISTRA ( VINCENTE, QUINDI, TEMUTA DAI DITTATORI NAZICAMORRISTI BERLUSCONI) " DA INFILTRARE, DA SPIARE" STILE MATA HARI ( SPERIAMO DI NON COPIARNE LA FINE, ORA).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-11412890042251718542013-08-24T09:44:03.254-04:002013-08-24T09:44:03.254-04:00ENORME LAVA € MAFIOSI MARINA BERLUSCONI IN GALERA ...ENORME LAVA € MAFIOSI MARINA BERLUSCONI IN GALERA E NON SU WIKIPEDIA.. ( ENORME LAVA € MAFIOSI MARINA BERLUSCONI AND VERY HOT LESBICO-N-AZISTA TOO... PUR SE DI TIPO VISCIDAMENTE "OCCULTO" E "OCCULTO" DA TANTI PUNTI DI VISTA....PRESTO NE SCRIVERÒ IN OGNI DETTAGLIO). USA L'ASSASSINO PAOLO BARRAI (MERCATO LIBERO, NOTO IN TUTTO IL MONDO COME "MERDATO" LIBERO), ASSASSINO/SUICIDATORE DI DAVID ROSSI DI MPS MA NON SOLO, PER LAVARE IL SUO CASH DI COSA NOSTRA PRESSO CRIMINALISSIMA FINTER BANK DI LUGANO!<br /><br />PRESTO FARÒ SAPERE DEI TANTISSIMI OMICIDI CHE MARINA BERLUSCONI E SILVIO BERLUSCONI, NEGLI ULTMI DECENNI, HAN ORDINATO DI FARE " A CHI ERA LORO SCOMODO" VIA PROPRIE, SIA PRIVATE, CHE PUBBLICHE... NUOVE OVRA, GESTAPO E DINA ( OMICIDI "CON MASCHERINA"... OMICIDI TRAVESTITI DA FALSISSIMI INCIDENTI, SUICIDI E MALORI, MA VI ASSICURO, ASSOLUTI OMICIDI SI .. PER NON DIRE DELLE STRAGI, ATTRAVERSO LE QUALI HAN SPAPPOLATO GIOVANNI FALCONE, PAOLO BORSELLINO, E DOZZINE DI UOMINI E DONNE DI SCORTA O INNOCENTI PASSANTI, TALOLTA, PURE INFANTI). DI CERTO, LA MEGA LAVA SOLDI MAFIOSI MARINA BERLUSCONI, LA "LESBICONA DI TIPO VILE, IN QUANTO OCCULTO, MARINA BERLUSCONI, LA SUPER FALSIFICA BILANCI, LADRONA, ANZI, LADRO-NAZISTA E MASSO-NAZISTA .. MARINA BERLUSCONI.. DOVREBBE ANDARE IN GALERA E SUBITO! NON SU WIKIPEDIA!!!!!! TUTTI I BERLUSCONI DOVREBBERO ANDARE IN GALERA E SUBITO. SPECIE QUELLI DI PRIMA E CRIMINALISSIMA FAMIGLIA. SONO MILIARDI DI VOLTE PEGGIO DEI TANZI E LIGRESTI, ESSENDO CHE FANNO AMMAZZARE E SPESSISSIMO, PURE, A DIFFERENZA, AD ESEMPIO, DEI TANZI. LA LAVA SOLDI DI COSA NOSTRA, CAMORRA, NDRANGHETA, MAFIE DI MEZZO MONDO, "LESBICONA DI TIPO DEPRAVATO ED OCCULTO", NONCHE' NAZISTA, ANZI, MASSO-NAZISTA MARINA BERLUSCONI, USA, NON PER NIENTE, AL MOMENTO, L'OMICIDA, DICIAMO MEGLIO, "IL SUICIDATORE ( DI DAVID ROSSI DI MONTE PASCHI, MA NON SOLO)", IL GIA' VARIE VOLTE IN GALERA, PAOLO BARRAI ( BLOG MERCATO "MERDATO" LIBERO), A LUGANO, X LAVARE CASH ZOZZISSIMO, CHE PIU' ZOZZO NON SI POTREBBE! PRESSO FINTER BANK LUGANO..E VORREI AGGIUNGERE, IF YOU DON'T MIND..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-58932503107923117652012-11-08T02:23:40.070-05:002012-11-08T02:23:40.070-05:00and also i want to share some honest comments abo...and also i want to share some honest comments about dress affects men...by men..<br />http://theevangelista.com/post/28976525987/clothing-is-communication-the-free-responses<br />"A woman should be able to dress in a way that makes her feel beautiful. Who could ever say this form of self-expression isn’t important?! Yet, she needs to delicately balance her own sense of style with an understanding of what outfits increase her chances of being objectified. To ignore this is like going to the beach for a few hours without sunscreen and expecting the clouds to protect you from sunburn. Sometimes they do. Sometimes you just burn."<br /><br />"I like a girl’s dress habits more if she…wears something appropriate for whatever weather is happening, and something that isn’t so short, revealing, or uncomfortable that she has to change the way she walks, sits, or stands just to cover-up or not be in pain."<br /><br />"Elegance and understatement are a thousand times more alluring to men of value, and repel the men of little/no value, all without compromising your femininity."<br /><br />"If nothing else, I think the biggest problem among virtuous spouse-material women is that make-up is somehow [seen as] too worldly and [these women think] that good future husbands will appreciate only those women who demonstrated non-worldliness vis a vis no makeup. This is wrong."<br /><br />"Immodesty isn’t just about the amount of skin exposed. It has more to do with what attracts our eyes and what a woman’s appearance “suggests” to our very susceptible and “visual” imagination. So for example, skinny jeans cover plenty of skin, but also outline the entire female form from the waist down. This draws the male eye and gives the male imagination a type of content to draw from in order to objectify the woman wearing them. The thing is, it’s not intentional…A Christian man who wants to keep his heart pure will look away and deny his imagination the opportunity to continue, but this makes for an uncomfortable relationship."<br /><br />"Don’t get too neurotic about modesty...I appreciate the effort but honestly, most current fashions are not going to be problem for my eyes (as long as you are staying this side of Jersey Shore)."<br /><br />"All dress/cosmetic stuff should be a window into the woman’s beauty (a concrete sign of her true beauty). It should not be a cover or distraction for her insecurity. MEN PICK UP ON A WOMAN’S INSECURITY VERY EASILY."<br /><br />"It’s best if a woman is herself. Don’t worry so much about what we might like; you have pretty good taste yourself. And I mean you, not necessarily your favorite store. Your gut is better then the latest fashion. Our culture is totally focused on objectifying you. Don’t let them please, because it makes our lives harder."<br /><br />"The more you respect yourself, the easier it is for us to respect you. Trying to be too different isn’t always attractive, but neither is trying to be like everyone else. Find your own style, but be sure that it is classy."<br /><br />I encourage you to read all the responses, and to look the rest of the survey as well..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-77268123779500328292012-11-08T02:22:50.118-05:002012-11-08T02:22:50.118-05:00just one thing....THEOLOGY OF THE BODY!!!!! http:/...just one thing....THEOLOGY OF THE BODY!!!!! http://www.christopherwest.com/ <br />Don't write off religion because of a bad experience. My family is Roman Catholic, (not nominally) and though I'm fairly certain that I show less skin than most girls at my college, my four sisters and I love to shop at anthropologie (major sales only haha), h&m, gap, urban outfitters and all the places that sell classy and fashionable clothes. My parents were always concerned with the way we dressed because they knew it was a sign of how much we value ourselves, especially if they knew we were not dressing with pure intentions (which is different than having conflicting standards), but never did they make us feel that being attractive, beautiful, and confident were things to be ashamed of. I'm sure there are many people who have been made to feel that way--I may even know some!--but because my family has been so clearheaded and not taken an extreme view on either side, I can love my religion, my faith, Jesus Christ, my fellow Christians (and non-Christians too!!), AND my body with equal fervor. ....And sex is a good thing! of course it is, God gave it to us.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-44048074615083743742012-10-30T06:59:47.212-04:002012-10-30T06:59:47.212-04:00I won't be raising a family in traditional chu...I won't be raising a family in traditional church because of many reasons, but this is one of the foremost in my mind. I'm not passing along the dysfunction to the next generation, even if it means withdrawing from most churches. Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-22169190626430547682012-08-07T15:30:46.363-04:002012-08-07T15:30:46.363-04:00Everything God created is GOOD, that is what the B...Everything God created is GOOD, that is what the Bible says. Everything, including your body, is a reflection of the goodness and beauty of God. God made man and woman for each other, the attraction is not a bad thing. That is how we are wired. Read Song of Solomon, it is a beautiful poem, or song, of romantic and erotic love. Eroticism is not a bad thing. God invented it. It has its place in God's creation. As far as lust goes (from the Sermon on the Mount), here is a proverb I received from a Bible professor that I have never forgotten - "You may not be able to keep a bird from landing on your head, but you sure can keep it from building a nest there."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02670286775930900375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-76150963915709899592012-05-01T02:45:15.494-04:002012-05-01T02:45:15.494-04:00Wow. I am totally "Kate". Couldn't g...Wow. I am totally "Kate". Couldn't get through this without crying! I'm making a point to read this several times a week. It's water for a dry heart who thought it was a shameful thing when people positively noticed my body, or genuinely feel ashamed to feel beautiful. Dang it. Sounds so lame just typing it out. [But it's the way us homeschoolers were taught to live.] Thank you, Lauren, for treading a different path!Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-21908829265141029092012-04-11T22:53:59.820-04:002012-04-11T22:53:59.820-04:00really enjoyed and appreciated your post.
I'...really enjoyed and appreciated your post. <br /><br />I've had some church leaders or even peers who've approached me on how i dress and it's disturbed me on some level. I've never felt as though I dressed immodestly, especially in a church setting, and so hearing what they said made me feel extremely judged. <br /><br />i guess i felt it was ironic that my friends outside church could speak to me while i was wearing shorts or a sundress and interact with me as a person... while it seemed like people in church were just obsessed with the fact that I was showing another inch of leg. <br /><br />anyway, just wanted to say thanks for writing so frankly. it's allowed me to realize i'm not alone in what I feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-49696946629518374922012-04-04T11:07:38.256-04:002012-04-04T11:07:38.256-04:00I could not agree more with your post. I have bee...I could not agree more with your post. I have been the man who tells the girls around me to cover up because it makes things harder for me. I have also seen how much that line of thinking has hurt my wife. I have finally come to see that it is absolutely not the responsibility of women to keep the men around them from lusting. <br /><br />There are many Christian men who deal with their lust by constantly averting their eyes. For these men the way their sisters dress is a serious problem. However, it is only a problem because their hearts are reacting in lust to what they see. This reminds them that their heart of lust is still alive and well, which is a rather uncomfortable thing to realize.<br /><br />So here is how I now deal with it. I am a man. I have a sex drive. That sex drive likes to get geared up when it sees good looking women. I live in a world full of good looking women, many of whom show it off. Furthermore, I live in a world where I can see a nude, sexualized image of a woman anytime, anyplace thanks to the internet. All of this means that it is a fools errand to try to hide my lust from myself by never exposing myself to stimuli that will reveal it. Thus the only possible way to deal with my lust is to constantly repent of it and throw myself on the provision of my Father. He alone can change my heart, and my heart is what needs changing.<br /><br />So the truth of the matter is that if a man tells you that your manner of dress is making it hard for him not to lust, in reality your beauty is just reminding him that he is lustful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-21217216117014624222012-04-03T04:01:49.250-04:002012-04-03T04:01:49.250-04:00Hey ... a recent follower of yours. ;) I found t...Hey ... a recent follower of yours. ;) I found this post inspiring because, after years of people trying to force their ideas of modesty onto me, I basically came to the same conclusions ... and it is SUCH A RELIEF!<br /><br />- Lauren<br /><br /><a href="http://ladaisi.blogspot.com/p/post-cards.html" rel="nofollow">Flowerchild Post-Cards</a>ladaisihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348955254558187266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-88471482144142682222012-03-27T05:36:04.567-04:002012-03-27T05:36:04.567-04:00Also to anonymous who says he has 'won the soc...Also to anonymous who says he has 'won the societal lottery'- there is nothing more unattractive to me (and a gazillion other girls I know) than arrogance. And false humility doesn't cover arrogance up. Trust me on this. <br /><br />The reason: if a guy knows he's hot then girls constantly feel like they're not good enough around him. I would like to marry a human being, thank you very much :) Besides, good looks/beauty fade- it's character that will stick around when you're old and grey.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190205371751613022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-76458211125604929172012-03-27T04:54:23.614-04:002012-03-27T04:54:23.614-04:00Lauren I totally agree that each person should be ...Lauren I totally agree that each person should be held accountable and I hate it when guys blame girls for their sexual sin. However, I've had guys say to me things like this: "when we're talking to a girl, we really want to concentrate on her personality and listen to her as a human being, but if you can see her cleavage it's really hard." I know that you would say that it's OK for us to dress modestly to help guys like this, but I think the difference between us is that I think that all girls should try and help guys to be able to treat us like people- they're trying to do a good thing. <br /><br />Also, and I really don't want to be rude or judgmental here but whilst there are no 'rules' in the bible about modesty there are about swearing on God's name and about using profane language (most people take this to mean swearing.) It's not my place to judge you on this but it kind of takes away from what you're trying to say. I'm sitting here thinking 'oh OK, she has a point on modesty, wait- she just swore on God's name (alarm bells! - if she thinks it's OK to do that (which it's definitely not) then maybe the same goes for what she thinks about modesty.' Do you get what I mean? <br /><br />Anyhow, thanks for all your posts- I love your blog :) Love and prayers.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190205371751613022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-33378380042721644622012-03-27T03:14:07.008-04:002012-03-27T03:14:07.008-04:00this required me to write my own blog in response:...this required me to write my own blog in response: http://thisrecklesslife.tumblr.com/<br /><br />as always, you are a blessing lauren.christin.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-67151488972481552012012-03-25T23:04:56.675-04:002012-03-25T23:04:56.675-04:00I am a nearly-50-year-old mom of daughters. I was ...I am a nearly-50-year-old mom of daughters. I was raised ultra-conservatively. <br /><br />I have been very deliberate in creating my own ever-evolving opinions over the years of what modesty is for me. I encourage my daughters to develop their own thoughts/opinions along with a healthy body image while learning how to love God with all their hearts. I give them guidance, but eventually, they will have to decide this for themselves.<br /><br />It's tricky business... but I think that is the best part. Every woman has the ability and responsibility to figure out what she thinks modesty in her life.<br /><br />I appreciate you tackling this subject and want to thank you for your openness and honesty. Blanket statements and rules don't work as your children mature. This is truly something everyone needs to figure out their own stance on with an open mind that is seeking God's heart.<br /><br />Thanks again for taking this topic on. If you were my daughter, I would tell you I am proud of you for being so brave!im1funmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-23666170380767096012012-03-24T22:59:15.194-04:002012-03-24T22:59:15.194-04:00I understand an issue with "Oh My G**" (...I understand an issue with "Oh My G**" ('Thou shalt not use thy Lord's name in vain anyone?) But fuck? damn? shit? ass?<br /><br />Hahahahahaha<br /><br />to the above commenter who was offended by the word "fuck" I say:<br /><br /> |congratulations; you give cuss words power they don't deserve|<br /><br />some people need to remove their asses off their legalistic high horses!<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />Real TalkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-45523515948385595792012-03-24T15:59:40.789-04:002012-03-24T15:59:40.789-04:00Hi Lauren,
I've been reading the GWP for a mon...Hi Lauren,<br />I've been reading the GWP for a month or so - and I love it! You and your contributors write so honestly and biblically and just keep hitting the nail on the head on so many topics that the Christian social circle I'm in don't like to address (and I know you understand how tough that can make the Christian walk). <br />I so relate to the way you were raised and where Kate is at with this. Your explanation is deep and well thought out and intentioned. Here's where I struggled with the article:<br /><br />1. I have a christian dad that has cheated on my mom numerous times and is addicted to porn. I have also been addicted to porn/masturbation and thank God every day for the freedom he has given me over this stronghold and for the articles I have recently found through GWP that explain the real reasons for those addictions so well. <br /><br />This background makes me very sensitive to girls that flaunt it in front of very vulnerable men and brothers in Christ. I KNOW AND BELIEVE that men have a choice to make about looking away and not fantasizing on what they see, and therefore as you say it is not the girl's fault. But let's honestly admit that our society is deeply messed up, and even men that want to live as Christ calls them to, are constantly bombarded by the stress that the western lifestlye produces in many people (due to being workaholics, not spending enough time in right relationship with God/people). This increases their vulnerability because they can easily fall into the trap of coping with their stressful life by always looking for the fastest release they can find (I know this is wrong, but it's a situation that many of us find ourselves in). Being aware of the culture we live in, we can't pretend we're in the perfect world or even that of the 60's for instance (With less of these outside factors affecting purity decisions), where our decisions are completely independent and do not affect our ultra-vulnerable brothers (I know they need to work on getting their priorities straight).<br /><br />If we were living in the garden of eden before Eve took a bite, then your argument is perfect, and I know we should "live in life", but we have to be obedient to God in the world/culture we do live in. There are so many stumbling blocks for our brothers in this world, that if we are slightly aware that they are affected by them, we shouldn't make ourselves another one for them (not talking turtlenecks here, but also not itsy-bitsy string bikinis).<br /><br /><br /><br />Also a little bothered/shocked by the use of "oh my god" and "fucking" in this article. I can struggle with my language and know what James has to say about this. I know your use of fucking was in the context that it perfectly described the issue fantasizers have, and wasn't a blatant curse, but it is a touchy one.<br />Trying not to be too legalistic here, but it's not always easy:)<br /><br />Would love to dialogue with you on this.<br />KristinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-44600376891727470502012-03-21T15:59:25.553-04:002012-03-21T15:59:25.553-04:00Would a shopkeeper be blamed if someone stole thei...Would a shopkeeper be blamed if someone stole their goods? Should he have keep everything behind a locked case, so as not to tempt shoplifters into sin? No, of course not - the thieves themselves committed the crime. So why are women's clothing blamed for men's indiscretions?<br /><br />I'm a man. I have control of myself, my thoughts, my eyes. I don't always control them as I should (or as God has directed me to do), but that fault is my own. That sin is my own and I need to reconcile it.<br /><br />Lust happens in our own minds and hearts - the object of that desire has no knowledge of the sin. The lusting can happen without the other party being present, as well. So whatever a woman wears doesn't impact the lust that directed towards her without her control. Men's imaginations are strong enough to "fill in the blanks" if they choose to do so.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06563006831453636730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-40368208814888201382012-03-21T14:30:05.865-04:002012-03-21T14:30:05.865-04:00Personal opinion: This post is about half what it ...Personal opinion: This post is about half what it should be and half what it shouldn't be.<br /><br />I agree that when we think in terms of "causing a brother to stumble" - conventional thought may be a bit harsh and off-base. I also agree that the church's views on modesty are a little too strong at times - I went to a church that frowned upon people wearing shorts to Sunday services.<br /><br />While I agree with about 50% of the post and your ideas behind it, I find issue with the delivery and overall follow-through of the concepts you discuss and believe.<br /><br />Honestly, I kept getting this "I mean, oh em gee, like, my bff Jill!" vibe... Then your "oh myyyyyy goddddddd" comment pushed it over the line. It's a product of a materialistic culture that degrades language and the power of words until things like that are acceptable. <br /><br />To me, the other 50% of this post is justification of a poisonous way of thinking.<br /><br />For instance: The word "sexy" is obviously rooted in the word "sex." Calling a person sexy then implies sexually explicit thought. Then again, contemporary culture has changed to the point where sexy = beautiful, and the words are interchangeable (for the most part). <br /><br />That's the problem that parents have with things like this, I think. They grew up with different meanings to words. Their children heard these words and grasped at the connotation without fully understanding the meaning of the word itself and its connotation. Now, the word means something different than it did say 20 years ago.<br /><br />A few simple examples would be ass (donkey) v. ass (butt) & gay (happy) v. gay (homosexual).<br /><br />Somewhere along the line, connotations begin to shift... and its because the culture allows it, justifies it. Just like this post is doing for things like "sexy." It's permission to change the connotation of the words. Conversations like this are what create new dictionary entries.<br /><br />We are to be in the world but not of it. I think part of that is gaining societal understanding of language and words, and not trying to be too innovative and creative when we use them because let's face it - it would be awkward calling a beautiful, curvy church building a "sexy church."<br /><br />Great post. Great conversation. And I commend you on your bravery for sharing these thoughts, but be wary of how your words are effecting the next generation of young men & women.<br /><br />Case in point: The gentleman who very vainly created an entire comment centered around how he finds himself attractive, and he thought that he should dumb himself down to be "normal" but now he realizes that "I'm sexy and I know it" instead of being modest and humble about his "blessed" body.<br /><br />This treads down a dangerous road of thought full of self-obsession and vanity... If we aren't careful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-43634334426868477562012-03-20T17:49:13.266-04:002012-03-20T17:49:13.266-04:00This was wonderful Lauren! I think the nature of t...This was wonderful Lauren! I think the nature of the heart is the most important thing here. A woman walking with the Lord speaks louder and clearer than the clothing she wears. I know who I am in Christ regardless of my hemline or neckline. Our focus should be more on sharing Jesus and reaching hearts for Christ, than on teaching rules. Rules turn our relationship with Christ into mere religion. <br />And as far as skinny jeans and v-necks go, why can't we wear them because we have awesome legs or a great neck? My best asset is my bottom, and you bet I get jeans that make it look cute. Because I like to feel good about my body just like working out and eating healthy, and even wearing make up for that matter. It breaks my heart that we as "Christians" feel so guilty about taking pleasure or feeling good about anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-6703855998835626232012-03-20T15:09:26.958-04:002012-03-20T15:09:26.958-04:00Great post!
I completely agree that a woman is ne...Great post!<br /><br />I completely agree that a woman is never responsible for a man's lust. When a man lusts after her it is his sin to own, and a temptation that he needs God's help controlling. Also, I agree that we shouldn't feel the need to only wear lose baggy clothing or unattractive clothing. I have been stared at even when dressed this way, so if a man is going to have lustful thought our clothing often isn't responsible.<br /><br />Here is where I am struggling with this stance on modesty and that is with teenage and younger girls. I am one of the leaders in our church's high school group, and often the clothing choices they make are ones that I feel they should be cautioned against. Not because they cause men to lust, but because it isn't glorifying to God. I might be missing your point, but shouldn't we be encouraging these younger women to cherish their bodies in a way that is glorifying to God? Sometimes that does mean wearing clothing that covers you up a bit more.Kelly Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17009851632691256295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-37907895090998286932012-03-20T06:29:56.197-04:002012-03-20T06:29:56.197-04:00As a guy I have to admit there are plenty of beaut...As a guy I have to admit there are plenty of beautiful girls and women, but when I see them I'm inspired by their beauty. Maybe I'm unique, but there is a reason for beauty, fun, smiles, love. These are inherently good things that should never be thought of as bad. When I see sickness, injuries, ugliness I also realize there are reasons for this as well. I think we are in this life for each other to witness both good and bad as it affects us and our relationship/dialogue with God.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785089965111855564.post-60217420566955917762012-03-19T18:16:45.204-04:002012-03-19T18:16:45.204-04:00I can't separate sexy from sex, and I can'...I can't separate sexy from sex, and I can't separate sex from a spouse so I won't separate sexy from a spouse either.<br /><br />You can probably just read that first line and the last two paragraphs, the rest is detail...<br /><br />I'm a man. I have a body type that puts on muscle and not fat and I'm still about as athletic as I was during my time as a collegiate athletic.<br />Basically, I'm ripped. (I know, that's not for everyone, I recognize I won the societal lottery... and please just humor me here, I also think I'm pretty kind, wise and loving (praise God) ... moving on.)<br /><br />For a while, I was concerned that I could be causing some women to stumble with what I was wearing or not wearing, as well as the men around me with feelings of inadequacy.<br />I actually stopped lifting weights for a couple months, then I realized what you realized - this is stupid, I love exercise and I don't workout to look good, I enjoy the time to myself, the challenge and the science side of exercise. But I still don't want anyone to look at me and think I'm sexy - I choose to reserve that for my wife (should I ever marry).<br /><br />I've received plenty of attention in my life, and I've dumbed down my character, intelligence and athleticism to blend in, or even "protect" others (you know, from my awesomeness). But there is a difference between being sexy and being impressive. I've been learning not to hide things I consider impressive in myself.<br /><br />I still clean up well, and even buried beneath looser clothing I've been told I'm quite handsome - but in my mind there's a fine line between handsome and sexy. And (in my mind) in public, one is classy and one is trashy.<br /><br />The only person I want to think I'm sexy is someone I am having sex with (within marriage). I only want to be sexy for my wife, and I want the same from her. When we choose to we will both be classy, cleaned up and put together (God-willing), but in private we will be sexy... together.<br /><br />I can't separate sexy from sex, and I can't separate sex from a spouse so I won't separate sexy from a spouse either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com